Friday, May 9, 2008

Swinger

In my pursuit of doing research for my characters (that’s the story I’m sticking too), I've come to realize that some of my readers look to me for advice in areas that might perhaps make them feel slightly uncomfortable by doing the research on their own. Rest assured, I’m here to turn that rock over and help you peek underneath; see what’s living under there, and hopefully help you expand your sexual aesthetic; your repertoire.

How many of you out there have thought about swapping partners? Come on…fess up, maybe just a little? Maybe you’ve thought about the topic, but didn’t know where to go to get more information, or maybe you haven’t felt comfortable broaching the subject with your partner.

There’s no need to look any farther than here. As I stated earlier, in the name of character research, I came across an interesting article dedicated to the alternative lifestyle of swinging. What I didn’t know was there are varying degrees of this lifestyle, and I thought you might want to learn a little more about it.

Are you ready? Here we go.

From my research and understanding, swinging can be categorized into three separate areas; varying on swinging experience and the comfort level of the swinging participants.


Soft swinging
involves no sexual intercourse between non-partners. Couples can have sex with their own partners in the same room at the same time while another couple is having sex. Couples do not exchange partners at any time during the session; no vaginal penetration between non-partners.
Partners do not physically swap partners, but there could possibly be some touching, or oral sex involved. These rules are usually negotiated in advance between the couples. Usually, there’s a lot of watching (voyeurism) between the other couple’s foreplay during these sessions.


Closed swinging
is where partners swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows couples and individual for a more intimate experience. Many people feel that is allows them more freedom to explore with fewer interruptions of their enjoyment.

Many closed swinging occurs at parties and events held in large homes. Closed swinging is usually for couples who have been in swinging for quite some time and have built up trust and understanding between each other.


Open swinging
this kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and it is great for exhibitionist and voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play.

Many swingers find open swinging allows for total release of their sexual desires and fantasies. An open swinging is successful when all members in the group demonstrate no jealousy. Therefore, it is recommended for couples who have been swinging for some time.


I don’t know about you, but I didn’t even realize I was a swinger. I just didn’t have an open, closed or soft label to stamp onto all that crazy sex I’ve been having over the years. Fuck’s sakes…. Who would have known?

I learned a lot more about the subject, and I found a helpful website that I’m linking here, if you would like to get a little more acquainted with the subject. This site offered answers to some of the most frequently asked questions. For example, how to get started swinging? Where to go to swing? How do you handle things like partner jealously or STD’s? These are all very good questions and this site was very informative on the subject; giving straight forward answers.


How many of you have thought about a lifestyle of swinging? How many of you are currently engaged in one of the three levels mentioned above? Please share your stories.


p.s. The pinback, button pussy, swinger above can be purchased here.

3 comments:

Casey Parish said...

I wouldn't say my woman and I are swingers, but we don't rule out the idea. We currently live an open relationship allowing us to experiment sexually with different people, but not necessarily with couples. Although we are still new to this, and kind of just playing it by ear, so far things have been good. No real jealousies, in fact we are encouraging of each other to pick up the next hot piece of ass ;)

-Casey

Neve Black said...

I'm both speechless and impressed with both you and your partners decision to live and let live....

Please keep me posted on your swinger-sexcapes. I'd love to hear more.

When is the next next hot, piece of ass making on it's way over?

Casey Parish said...

Well actually as of tonight she is going to a party with the hopes of baby finding some one for physical fun. I might call one of her friends to see what she is up to tonight. As of this moment I don't have anyone in mind specifically, but she does. It's more of just a wait and see thing, especially since it is still very recent. Either way I am hoping the next hot piece comes strutting this way very soon :P

-Casey