Friday, June 27, 2008

Weather Related Bad Moods?

The picture above is called, Evening Mood, and I love it. You can purchase this print via Etsy, by selecting here.

I saw a film this weekend (my weekends from my non-writing job are Thurs/Fri), and it was foreign; subtitled and, oui, oui, French. A very fetching film genre for Neve Black, I suppose.

There was scene when one of the characters is driving, his name is Paul with his fiancé’ through the streets of Paris, and it’s raining; steadily pouring actually and the couple are having a heated argument.

Anyway, Paul says to his fiancé’, “It’s funny how the weather really affects my moods.”

Those words he said stuck with me. I think Paul feltit was okay to use the bad weather as an excuse for his belligerent, badgering and overall bad behavior toward his fiancé’.

Paul happened to be a real prick. Fortunately, his fiancée ended up dumping him like a bad habit. Actually, her character was rather kick-ass about dumping his bad weather affects my mood, sorry ass ways, but she went after him with a shot gun. Nothing like my daisy rifle, no sir, it was the real magilla.

You go, French, girl, you go!

Why did I bring this up, you ask? Well, there is a point. You see, I read an article awhile ago, and it spoke of men’s moods. More specifically it spoke of when a woman should approach a man for certain things, based on his mood behavior. Like mood time zones. I was irritated after reading the article, and never thought about blogging about it, until after I saw this film.

As an example, the article suggests waiting to ask a man to take the garbage out between the hours of mood zone A and mood zone B, because his mood time zone will be more open to receiving your trash direction.


I'm scratching my head in bewilderment over the utter lunacy and preposterous idea of mood bahavior zones.... For fuck’s sakes, who can, or would actually live like that? The whole idea gave new meaning to the word, accomodating. The article must have been tongue-in-cheek somehow; written with satire in mind. But it wasn't and I felt like maybe I was missing out on something. Missing out on some hidden truth of understanding how to communicate with a man.

I found myself pondering the idea, and wondering, "Is it me?" Could it be possible that there are women who really do check their watches; lining up the man in their life’s schedule to their “to do lists?"

I’ve decided to go ahead and paste the article below, for everyone to read. I’m interested to hear from you if this article has some warranty to it, or if it’s bullshit.

Might I just add one more point, please? Thanks.

I think it’s interesting that this article is geared toward men and not women. As if to suggest women aren’t susceptible to mood swings brought on by things like, weather, menstrual cycles, or the sometimes not so lovable men we share our life with.


If you need his help moving, fighting, or fixing something…
Ask: from 9-12 a.m.
It should come as no surprise that guys wake up bursting with testosterone. And aside from the obvious frisky factor, this surge in hormones makes him ambitious and determined, says Lichterman. This is the perfect time to ask him for a favor, particularly one that makes him feel like Mr. Fix-It. Buying a car? Indulge his competitive streak, and drag him along to help you haggle with the salesman and score a great deal. Or, cash in on his peak in spatial thinking and ask him to move your couch, or measure your closet space. He’ll feel heroic, and you’ll reap the benefits.

Neve comments:
Are you up for robbing a bank today, honey?

If you want to get him to agree to your plans…
Ask: from 3-4 p.m.
Trying to convince him to sign up for ballroom dancing lessons, commit to your new book club or otherwise agree to do something that would normally send men screaming in the opposite direction? Then this late-afternoon window is the perfect opportunity, says Lichterman, since his super-low testosterone levels will make him mellow and amenable to pretty much anything you throw on the table.

Neve Comments:
No offense to any dancers out there, but ballroom dance lessons? Or a book club? I think this tactic might fall under the category of coercion. And that's no good regardless of the time of day. Right?

If you want to broach a touchy topic…
Ask: from 8-10 p.m.
At this hour, another hormone called oxytocin — a.k.a. the “cuddle hormone” due to its intimacy-inducing effects — is on the rise in his bloodstream, says Lichterman. That means this is a prime time to resolve a lingering spat (“It hurt my feelings when you didn’t call today”) or get a grievance off your chest (“Will you please shave your goatee?”). You’ll probably get met with nothing but a sincere apology and the promise to change his ways. Sure, his sweetness may be as much due to timing as a true desire to please, but hey, who cares as long as your wish is his command?

Neve Comments:
Damn. I'm not sure about anyone else, but I've had some real doozy fights on more than one occassion with my love interests at this time of day. Sincere apology? Piffle.


John Ettorre said...

The idea that men might be generally moodier than women struck me as instantly hilarious. Of course, it's hard to generalize, but generally speaking, I tend to encounter more moodiness in women than men. But then, since I'm also pretty moody myself, perhaps that's why I get along better with women than men (well, there is the not unimportant issue of the former sex being an awful lot more interesting to look at, both clothed and unclothed).

Neve Black said...

Hey John,
I was more put off by the article, than the film. The film was actually quite good: Roman De Gare; playing at the Cedar Lee.

I pulled one tiny conversation within the two hour run time, but the article...that's a different story: All the hairs on the back of my neck were raised after reading it. I thought about replying to the author and I may still do that.

I'd like to see the article re-written interjecting both points of view; men and women as people instead of a stereotype circa,

Thank you for commenting.